Letting Go: When To, How To, and Are You Ready?
Godd3ss Aisha
I was listening to “Healer” by Londrell when a line stopped me in my tracks:
“Don’t let your deceitful ego mislead you. The more you try to pour yourself into a broken vessel, it will overflow and leak through.”
🤔
Wow.
That one hit differently.
It made me think…
How many times in my life have I held on to jobs, friendships, situations, and relationships much longer than I should have?
Another message from Londrell stood out:
“You have to understand that people and times change. You can’t walk back into the same hurtful doors and not expect to find pain.”
That was the moment I started looking back—not with regret, but with understanding.
I thought about a job where I felt unseen.
I knew my value.
I knew what I contributed.
I knew how hard I worked.
But I stayed for years, feeling unhappy and frustrated, always one bad day away from quitting.
Looking back, I also saw how I handled that pain.
I would vent to family and friends.
I would have that one drink after work because it had been “one of those days.”
Then sometimes that one drink became two.
Or more.
I stayed up too late.
Stopped prioritizing myself.
Stopped caring about how I was showing up the next day.
And slowly…
A bad situation became an unhealthy routine.
I thought about leaving, but my pride—my ego—had something to say:
“Nope. We’ve been here too long. Put your big girl panties on and handle it.”
Besides, I had two kids.
Starting over didn’t feel like an option.
But what I didn’t realize was this:
By waiting for someone else to recognize my worth, I had forgotten to recognize it myself.
I was looking for validation from people who couldn’t see my value.
Because of pride, I allowed myself to be mistreated.
And even worse…
I started mistreating myself.
The same pattern showed up in my personal life.
I made excuses.
“The kids are just going through growing pains.”
“He just had a bad day.”
Excuse after excuse.
But the truth?
They saw what I couldn’t see.
I had lost my light.
I had poured so much into everyone and everything else that I had nothing left for myself.
I was just moving from one day into the next.
Then came the moment that changed everything…
The doctor’s appointment. 😳
It was time for my physical, and because of my age, they decided to do an EKG.
I watched the nurse print the results.
She looked at the paper.
Paused.
Printed another one.
Then said:
“I’m just going to run this again, okay?”
Ummm…
Now my heart was beating faster for a completely different reason. 😂
She repeated the process and said she wanted the doctor to review it.
So I waited.
And you know how your mind starts running when you’re waiting.
Finally, the doctor walked in and said:
“Ms. Brick, according to this, you’ve had a mild silent heart attack.”
👀👀👀
“What chu talkin’ bout Willis?!”
I told him, “I didn’t feel anything.”
He replied:
“You probably did…and ignored it.”
🤔
And the sad part?
I think he was right.
I had become so used to ignoring my body, my emotions, and my stress that even my own warning signs got pushed aside.
Then he asked:
“Have you been under stress lately?”
Yep.
And in that moment, I knew exactly what I needed to do.
No prescription required. 😉
I told myself:
It ends now.
If that job doesn’t recognize your worth?
Find another one.
Or continue down the same road and risk your health.
The relationship?
Time to let go.
The kids?
Oh, they were getting grounded, too. 😂
Once I put in my two weeks’ notice, something changed.
I found myself driving past the places I used to stop.
Sure, the snacks were good.
The drinks were cheap.
But nothing was worth sacrificing my peace, my health, or myself.
I learned how to jump off the hamster wheel we call “life”…
And actually start living.
I made a promise to myself:
I will not stay anywhere that requires me to lose myself in order to belong.
I’m not perfect.
But I am pure.
My intentions are pure.
My love is pure.
My heart is pure.
And if something requires me to constantly shrink, hurt, or abandon myself…
It’s time to let it go.
As Londrell says:
“Letting go is easy, but we make it challenging because we’re caught up in the memories and not focused on the reality.”
Read that again.
You already know what no longer serves you.
You know what makes your body tense.
You know what keeps your mind racing.
You know what steals your peace.
Whether it’s from your past or happening right now…
Maybe it’s time to release it.
The question is:
Are you ready to let go?
Or are you waiting for your own wake-up call?
Trust yourself.
Choose yourself.
There is nothing selfish about protecting your peace.
Continue loving others.
Continue showing up.
Continue working hard.
Continue caring.
But remember:
You cannot pour from an empty vessel.
If something is destroying your mental, emotional, or physical health…
Love yourself enough to let it go. 💚
If this message speaks to your heart, share it with someone you love and care about. Someone may need this reminder today.
Peace, Love & Light. 💚🧘🏾♀️