Letting Go: When To, How To, and Are You Ready?
Godd3ss Aisha
I was listening to “Healer” by Londrell when a line stopped me in my tracks:
“Don’t let your deceitful ego mislead you. The more you try to pour yourself into a broken vessel, it will overflow and leak through.”
🤔
Wow.
That one hit differently.
It made me think…
How many times in my life have I held on to jobs, friendships, situations, and relationships much longer than I should have?
Another message from Londrell stood out:
“You have to understand that people and times change. You can’t walk back into the same hurtful doors and not expect to find pain.”
That was the moment I started looking back—not with regret, but with understanding.
I thought about a job where I felt unseen.
I knew my value.
I knew what I contributed.
I knew how hard I worked.
But I stayed for years, feeling unhappy and frustrated, always one bad day away from quitting.
Looking back, I also saw how I handled that pain.
I would vent to family and friends.
I would have that one drink after work because it had been “one of those days.”
Then sometimes that one drink became two.
Or more.
I stayed up too late.
Stopped prioritizing myself.
Stopped caring about how I was showing up the next day.
And slowly…
A bad situation became an unhealthy routine.
I thought about leaving, but my pride—my ego—had something to say:
“Nope. We’ve been here too long. Put your big girl panties on and handle it.”
Besides, I had two kids.
Starting over didn’t feel like an option.
But what I didn’t realize was this:
By waiting for someone else to recognize my worth, I had forgotten to recognize it myself.
I was looking for validation from people who couldn’t see my value.
Because of pride, I allowed myself to be mistreated.
And even worse…
I started mistreating myself.
The same pattern showed up in my personal life.
I made excuses.
“The kids are just going through growing pains.”
“He just had a bad day.”
Excuse after excuse.
But the truth?
They saw what I couldn’t see.
I had lost my light.
I had poured so much into everyone and everything else that I had nothing left for myself.
I was just moving from one day into the next.
Then came the moment that changed everything…
The doctor’s appointment. 😳
It was time for my physical, and because of my age, they decided to do an EKG.
I watched the nurse print the results.
She looked at the paper.
Paused.
Printed another one.
Then said:
“I’m just going to run this again, okay?”
Ummm…
Now my heart was beating faster for a completely different reason. 😂
She repeated the process and said she wanted the doctor to review it.
So I waited.
And you know how your mind starts running when you’re waiting.
Finally, the doctor walked in and said:
“Ms. Brick, according to this, you’ve had a mild silent heart attack.”
👀👀👀
“What chu talkin’ bout Willis?!”
I told him, “I didn’t feel anything.”
He replied:
“You probably did…and ignored it.”
🤔
And the sad part?
I think he was right.
I had become so used to ignoring my body, my emotions, and my stress that even my own warning signs got pushed aside.
Then he asked:
“Have you been under stress lately?”
Yep.
And in that moment, I knew exactly what I needed to do.
No prescription required. 😉
I told myself:
It ends now.
If that job doesn’t recognize your worth?
Find another one.
Or continue down the same road and risk your health.
The relationship?
Time to let go.
The kids?
Oh, they were getting grounded, too. 😂
Once I put in my two weeks’ notice, something changed.
I found myself driving past the places I used to stop.
Sure, the snacks were good.
The drinks were cheap.
But nothing was worth sacrificing my peace, my health, or myself.
I learned how to jump off the hamster wheel we call “life”…
And actually start living.
I made a promise to myself:
I will not stay anywhere that requires me to lose myself in order to belong.
I’m not perfect.
But I am pure.
My intentions are pure.
My love is pure.
My heart is pure.
And if something requires me to constantly shrink, hurt, or abandon myself…
It’s time to let it go.
As Londrell says:
“Letting go is easy, but we make it challenging because we’re caught up in the memories and not focused on the reality.”
Read that again.
You already know what no longer serves you.
You know what makes your body tense.
You know what keeps your mind racing.
You know what steals your peace.
Whether it’s from your past or happening right now…
Maybe it’s time to release it.
The question is:
Are you ready to let go?
Or are you waiting for your own wake-up call?
Trust yourself.
Choose yourself.
There is nothing selfish about protecting your peace.
Continue loving others.
Continue showing up.
Continue working hard.
Continue caring.
But remember:
You cannot pour from an empty vessel.
If something is destroying your mental, emotional, or physical health…
Love yourself enough to let it go. 💚
If this message speaks to your heart, share it with someone you love and care about. Someone may need this reminder today.
Peace, Love & Light. 💚🧘🏾♀️
Hello, Beautiful: A Few Kind Words Can Change Someone’s Day
Godd3ss Aisha
True story…
I was scrolling through Facebook when I came across a reel that instantly made me smile.
A beautiful woman saw another beautiful woman, stopped her, gave her a genuine compliment, and even spun her around in a joyful ballroom twirl. 🤗
The energy was contagious.
The message was powerful.
The smile on that woman’s face was absolutely priceless.
It got me thinking…
Let’s be honest.
Sometimes women can be each other’s biggest critics. Too often, compliments are replaced with comparison, competition, or quiet judgment. It doesn’t have to be that way.
So I decided to put it to the test.
A few days later, I was walking to the store when I made eye contact with a young woman.
She smiled and said, “Good morning.”
I smiled back and replied,
“Grand Rising, Beautiful.” 😁
The look she gave me…
You would’ve thought I had called her a shepherd for the devil! 😂🤷🏾♀️
She didn’t smile.
She looked uncomfortable.
I kept walking, wondering…
Did I offend her?
Does she not know she’s beautiful?
Has no one ever called her beautiful before?
The next time I saw her…
The same reaction.
At first, I was a little irritated because, honestly, who doesn’t enjoy receiving a sincere compliment?
Then I realized something important.
I don’t know her story.
I don’t know what she’s been through.
I don’t know what her self-esteem looks like.
Maybe no one had ever spoken those words to her.
Or maybe she’d heard so many negative ones that she no longer believed the positive.
That thought broke my heart.
It reminded me of something I shared in my “Trends” blog.
Many people don’t truly believe they’re attractive, worthy, or enough unless someone else validates them first.
Thankfully, not everyone struggles with this. Some people know exactly who they are and carry themselves with confidence.
But for those who don’t…
I’d like to offer a simple challenge.
For the next seven days, stand in front of the mirror every morning and say,
“I am beautiful.”
(And yes, gentlemen—you can absolutely be beautiful too.)
Then, during those same seven days, give one genuine compliment to another woman.
Not because you want something in return.
Not because you’re trying to impress anyone.
Simply because kindness is free.
You’ll be surprised how good it feels—not only for them, but for you as well.
Self-esteem plays a much bigger role in our health than many people realize.
When we don’t feel good about ourselves, it can affect our sleep, our eating habits, our relationships, and for some, even lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms like alcohol or drugs.
So ask yourself…
Who told you that you weren’t beautiful?
Society?
A relationship?
Family?
A stranger on the internet?
And an even better question…
Why did you choose to believe them?
Today, I invite you to replace those voices with your own.
When you wake up tomorrow, look in the mirror and simply say,
“Hello, Beautiful.”
You have scars?
You’re beautiful.
A few extra pounds?
You’re beautiful.
A missing tooth?
You’re beautiful.
Gray hair?
You’re beautiful.
Every chapter you’ve lived has helped shape the incredible person staring back at you.
I broke one of my teeth and eventually had it pulled.
Guess what?
I still smile as big and as brightly as ever. 💯
Because beauty has never been about perfection.
It’s about authenticity.
Be kind to yourself.
Be kind to others.
Your words may be exactly what someone needs to hear.
The next time you cross paths with another woman…
Smile.
Say hello.
Tell her she’s beautiful.
You never know how much those two simple words might change her day—or even her life.
And if this message touched your heart, please share it with someone you love and care about. A simple act of kindness has a way of creating ripples that travel farther than we’ll ever know.
Peace, Love & Light. 💚🧘🏾♀️
Be You: The Freedom of Letting Go of Other People's Opinions
Godd3ss Aisha
True story...
One morning I stood in front of my closet thinking, "What should I wear?" 🤔
It was a little chilly outside, so I grabbed a pair of jeans, a cute sweatshirt, and my leg warmers.
"Hey...cute and comfy!" 😊
I got to work.
A coworker looked at me and laughed.
"Good morning, Aisha! Girl...are you trying to bring leg warmers back?!" 😂😂😂
"I haven't seen those since the '80s!"
We both laughed, but later I caught myself thinking...
"Am I old school?"
"Am I out of style?"
"Am I not keeping up with the times?"
Later that day, I asked my boyfriend at the time,
"How do I look?"
He smiled and said,
"You look good...but you should tighten up that tummy. Get that 'snatched' look like Cardi B or Megan Thee Stallion."
I paused.
I had already been thinking about getting my stomach flatter, so hearing that made me think,
"Maybe I really do need to start working out."
Looking back, I realized something.
Even as adults, we're still playing many of the same games we played in school.
Back then, it was all about who had the latest shoes, the newest hairstyle, the coolest clothes. If you didn't keep up, someone made sure you knew it.
Has much really changed?
Today I see women—and men—working extra shifts, taking out loans, and spending thousands on cosmetic procedures just to achieve the latest beauty trend.
If you're curvy, you're told to lose weight.
If you're thin, you're told to eat more.
If your hair is natural, someone has an opinion about it.
If you color it, someone has an opinion.
So...
When does it stop?
Let's be honest.
Some people will say, "I did it for me."
And for some, that's absolutely true.
But for many of us, if we're willing to be completely honest with ourselves, at least part of that decision is driven by a desire to be accepted, validated, or approved by society.
Constantly chasing someone else's version of beauty can slowly chip away at your self-esteem.
Your subconscious is always listening.
When you repeatedly tell yourself you're not enough, eventually your mind begins to believe it—and your body often follows.
What if one day you decided...
"I'm going to dye my hair purple."
"I'm going to stop shaving."
"I'm going to wear leg warmers because I like them."
Immediately the questions start.
"What will people think?"
"What will they say?"
Then I asked myself something even more important.
Why do I care?
My answer surprised me.
I didn't want people to think I wasn't current.
I didn't want to seem outdated.
Then another question came.
"If you're constantly changing to fit everyone else's expectations...who are you?"
That question changed everything.
I realized I had been allowing social media, family, friends, trends, and complete strangers to influence how I saw myself.
Little by little, I was losing my identity.
Once I made the decision to simply be myself—and stop worrying about everyone else's opinion—it felt incredibly freeing.
I stood taller.
I walked differently.
I spoke with more confidence.
Not because I had changed my appearance...
But because I had finally become comfortable in my own skin.
Now, if your doctor recommends losing or gaining weight for your health, that's a different conversation. Taking care of your body is an act of self-love.
But if your decision is purely cosmetic, take a moment before making it.
Sit quietly with yourself.
Remove the voices of social media.
Silence the opinions of family and friends.
Forget about trends for just a little while.
Then ask yourself:
"Is this truly what I want...or am I trying to become someone else's definition of beautiful?"
You may discover that you already love the body you're in.
Whether you're curvy, slim, athletic, or somewhere in between...
Whether you wear leg warmers or designer heels...
Whether your hair is natural, colorful, long, or short...
You are worthy.
You are enough.
And that, my beautiful soul, is more than enough. 💚
If this message resonated with you, please share it with someone you love and care about. You never know who may need the reminder that they are already enough, just as they are.
Peace, Love & Light. 💚🧘🏾♀️
Understanding Healing Is Also About How You Think
Godd3ss Aisha
I’ve learned that healing isn’t just about eating healthy, exercising, or getting enough sleep. Those things are incredibly important, but I’ve discovered there’s another powerful piece of the puzzle—our thoughts.
After reading The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Dr. Joseph Murphy, I began looking at healing in a completely different way. One lesson that stayed with me is that our subconscious is always listening. The words we speak to ourselves matter.
When we constantly say, “I’m sick,” “I’m tired,” “I’m broken,” or repeat negative thoughts, our minds begin to accept those statements as truth. I like to imagine that I’m the captain of my ship, and my subconscious is below deck. It can’t see what’s happening outside—it only follows the directions I give it.
So I started changing my language.
Instead of saying, “I’m sick,” I say, “My body is healing.” Instead of focusing on what’s wrong, I focus on what’s getting better. Those small changes have helped me shift my mindset, reduce stress, and approach each day with hope instead of fear.
Positive self-talk may seem simple, but it can have a profound effect on our emotional well-being. When we reduce stress and negativity, we create space for peace, confidence, and healthier habits to grow. For many women especially, chronic stress can take a toll on the body, and learning to slow down and speak kindly to ourselves can be a beautiful act of self-care.
So I ask you this: What harm could it do to stand in front of the mirror each morning and say:
I am healthy. I am strong. I am worthy. I am beautiful.
It’s time to stop letting the opinions of others define who we are. It’s time to reclaim our bodies, our minds, and our energy. Step into your power, embrace your divine purpose, and become the Godd3ss you were always meant to be.
Namaste. 🧘🏾♀️✨